{In October 2019 I wrote this in a coffee shop in a small town in Georgia. I was brought to tears rereading it because of how relevant it is for our current circumstances during this time when everything has collectively been taken, and we are all feeling the ache. I’m reminded that as believers, this world is not our hope or our home, neither ultimately or temporarily. I don’t ache for things to return to normal, I ache for heaven}
“The books or the music in which we thought the beauty was located will betray us if we trust to them; it was not in them, it only came through them, and what came through them was longing. These things – the beauty, the memory of our own past – are good images of what we really desire; but if they are mistaken for the thing itself they turn into dumb idols, breaking the hearts of their worshipers. For they are not the thing itself; they are only the scent of a flower we have not found, the echo of a tune we have not heard, news from a country we have not visited.” – C.S. Lewis
The Constant Longing for Home
It’s perplexing to enjoy my ideal day and still experience a strange longing for home; a vague sense of something aching and yearning for where I know and am known.
This is my happy place; sitting in the coffee shop of my dreams that is infused with history and beauty, songs I love playing in my ears, in a state I have always cared for, a new city to explore just outside, my favorite season coming to life all around me, solitude and time to think and pray and plan and work. A rare warm (yet still cool) day in the middle of fall.
My beloved season translated into my soul by the mid-changing leaves, history, bookstores, and coffee shops all on the same block. A good book before me that lays out my favorite story, endless time to write a new one. New conversations with old friends. The sense of unlimited opportunities travel brings.
I am happy to be here, but I long for home. Maybe because my life has been chaos and nonstop changes for the past few years, so the grounded and whole and peaceful life I’ve built in the past few months is wonderful to me.
Either way, I long to return to the laughter of my siblings and the embrace of my mother and the comfort of coffee in my mentor’s home using my own mug, playing with my friend’s babies, driving my old raggity car and sitting under the teaching at my church and simply being in the mundaneness and beauty of what has become my everyday life in these past four months.
The truth is, this used to perplex me. But I know what it is, now. Experiences are good, but they pale in light of home. I will always ache for home when I’m absent from it.
Content on Earth While Craving Heaven
This longing is the same as the one I have for heaven.
I am present here and I’m grateful for the earth. With all her darkness, she is the place Jesus chose to bring the kingdom, afterall. I don’t care who her ruler is, her maker already had the final word say. Elohim hand sketched her and filled her in with His own paint. He created this earth with big, fruitful, glorious plans. And they will all come true here, someday soon; when His newness will swallow all ancient mistakes, all will be made right, here.
God’s original blueprint withstands the current circumstances of earth and Eden is his plan for her still. In the meantime, all that goodness that was implanted in me lives in me, and he told me to bring it to life in this dead place. God will make earth’s soil perfect one day, he’ll make her new just as he is making me new. For all the darkness that continuously breaks my heart here because of sin, I know God has a mission through His people here, and I am so expectant to see it accomplished.
Earth is a hard place to embrace, but I love her. She is chock full of struggle, but I’m happy to be here, participating in pushing back the darkness. Creating is not easy here, neither is healing, everything good is a fight, but it is fruitful and possible and glorious when He wins. Parched souls are here, and they desperately need the hope of Jesus. I am hopeful for what God has set before us to do on this planet. For the beauty here, the new mercies every morning, the people to love and be loved by.
There is kingdom work to do here, so here is where I’ll embrace.
But a part of me longs for home. It’s nostalgic for a place I’ve never seen. I don’t know much about the streets paved with gold, or the crowns we’ll lay at his feet, or the place he’s preparing for us, but I long to be in his presence, to sit at his feet, to feel his embrace. Not because he isn’t here with me now. Not because he does not show himself to me or prove that he is guiding and present here. Not because he is unseen on this very planet in all good things, in all beauty.
As a matter of fact, I’ve never been more aware of how close, how near, how true and involved he is, until now. But every piece of him here only makes me miss him more. I long to be with him. I long to see him. I’m brutally aware of the fact that He is where all this ends. Everything good here points to him and reminds me of him. Just thinking about God’s uncontainable full, heavenly presence is an unquantifiable joy in my soul.
I don’t long for heaven for the sake of perfection, I am willing to tough it out here because there are things to do, and because he is here with me. I long for heaven because I long for him. I long for heaven because I long for home. For me to live is to share Christ, for me to die is every gain.
“The Kingdom is coming, but the Kingdom is here. That’s why we’re homesick, & it’s also why we might as well get busy planting.” Andrew Peterson, Adorning the Dark
The Paradoxes of Life with Christ
Life with Christ is full of paradoxes. All the good things I love on earth are mere replicas of what I deeply desire, and serve as horrible ends that never give me what I desire. They are illusions of what I deeply long for: travel and literature and beautiful aesthetics and nature and loved ones and even good coffee will turn into idols if I let them. If this earth was my means to an end, it would break my heart over and over and over again. It already has.
Good things are a scent, a distant echo, a beautiful mirage, letters from my home country. For now we are seeing through a glass, dimly lit. Now I only see in part. But these are the things that point to what my heart longs for most: God. Then, when I see him face to face, I will know Him, just as I am known by Him. He is the only thing promised to me, he is what all the good things lead me to.
If the good things end with themselves, I am left overindulging and coming up empty and hopeless each time. The good and bad point me to the only thing that satisfies me: himself. This is good news, since the good things can be taken away in an instant and can crush me without question in their wake.
I embrace this as a fact because I’ve worshipped at their altar before, and they have all betrayed me. I have been seeking beauty and meaning in exquisite things and experiences my entire life. We all chase different things, but this Enneagram four has looked for meaning in beauty and introspection and creating and imagination and creativity and stories and aesthetics and art and deep connection and being known and deeply knowing others as a means to an end before.
In reality, beauty was always meant to point us to the true means to all ends; Jesus. I’ve spent a lot of my life worshipping at the alter of my deepest enjoyments; good books and good food and good friends and good coffee and good art and good places and good sceneries and earthly goodness. I have felt the heartbreak of seeking earthly goodness as a means to an end. I know better now. I still enjoy all these things, but I know that all roads lead to longing for Him. I’ve traveled them, and I’ve met him at the front porch with open arms time and time again. All good things are mere expressions of his glory. As Lauren Daigle so beautifully penned, “I’ve searched the world to find my heart is yours.”
No Goodness Apart from Him
No good thing is promised me, but Him. But the good things that create longing in me, for him, push me to bring him here, to this earth.
The only answer is that this is the radical middle, and I must treat it as such. Balancing the weight of longing for home while planting on this earth is the key to contentment. It is the key to gratitude. It is the key to meaningful kingdom work. I can only see Christ in everything when I see myself in Christ.
I must allow every single good thing to point to Christ. To His common grace, his new mercies, his character and image. I must press into who he is through what he’s made, and I must beckon others to do the same.
None of this in itself is a means to an end. It will all either run out, or dry you out, or break you in half. HE is the end at all of these beautiful beginnings. Good things are only good when we find him at their close.
We were all made for him, therefore, he is what all things circles back around to. His kingdom, his rule, his glory, his goodness, his beauty, his essence and likeness, him- We can embrace Him in all his beauty when we see where all beautiful roads and means lead us to. the means to all my ends. So I spend my time on earth pressing on toward the country where he lives. I allow every bit of good experienced here to point to Him.
“If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world. If none of my earthly pleasures satisfy it, that does not prove that the universe is a fraud. Probably earthly pleasures were never meant to satisfy it, but only to arouse it, to suggest the real thing…never to mistake them for the something else of which they are only a kind of copy, or echo, or mirage. I must keep alive in myself the desire for my true country, which I shall not find till after death; I must never let it get snowed under or turned aside; I must make it the main object of life to press on to that other country and to help others to do the same” C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity